I’ve come to believe that what you see is not what you get, and sometimes, what you get not what you see.

You can’t assume that someone is behaving the way he is just ‘cause he seems like it.

Millions of things go through someone’s mind, hidden from others. You’ll never know what someone might be thinking of, unless he tells you (provided if it’s the truth, of course!)

To look beyond one’s words and actions, and truly understand. (and I quote myself :p)

Its not something easy to do. To understand someone, I mean. You have to invest so much time, energy, emotions and not forgetting the effort (which, depending on different situation, varies – for eg, if you would wanna understand your bf/gf, you would want to do it naturally and thus it wont feel like a lot of effort; on the other hand, if you were obliged to understand someone less close, it’ll take up more).

And, people change. After some time, you think you’ve put in enough to be able to comprehend the reason to one’s action, or seem to know and see through their thoughts. But no. we, as normal humans, change all the time – in terms of our thoughts, philosophy in life, character and sizes (ehem) etc.

And that’s why most of us, in fact, don’t actually really understand each other. Cause it takes up too much energy. Face it, not all of us have so much time and energy for that. It requires too much careful thinking and consideration. And some things/ feelings/ facts can be so easily hidden, unless you want to know someone from deep inside.

And because we don’t understand, we misunderstand. We misjudge their thoughts, comments and actions. And then, we spread our assumption to others, who will in turn continue our “deeds”.

To prove my point – that we often jump to our own/ other peoples conclusion – I’m sure you’ve heard, or at the very least thought, of these:

“You’re not what other people say you are, at all.”

“I didn’t imagine that you could be so easy to get along (cause you look so high almighty)”

“This experience is not how I expected it to be, it turned out to be so good!”

Of course, I’m not saying we shouldn’t expect, as only with expectations can one not be surprised by everything/ everyone around them.

Basically, what I’m trying to get through here is, please don’t pass judgement before understanding someone/ a particular situation. And if you think you actually understand someone, think twice. You might only be understanding what they want you to understand.

Disclaimer: This is purely what i think, my POV, my observation, and is not related to anyone/thing/incident directly.

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